Thursday, February 5, 2015

The sermon that is for everyone else

Your sitting in church Sunday morning again and all you can do is nod your head in agreement with everything the pastor says as your thinking  'I hope so and so is really listening to this message. They could really learn a lesson or two from it."

Or you may think, "oh I know this person doesn't come to church here but they NEED this message, this is totally all about them. It could give them great direction how to clean up their act. I should send a cd of this to them."

Or you may say you don't think like that. But then you may be the person sitting there shaking your head in agreement thinking "yah, I totally got this, I'm so good at doing what pastor is talking about I could teach this sermon. The church should let me be the example of this and help all the other poorer, less worthy Christian foke."


A few months back I realized that these types of thoughts parade around my brain often. But the truth is, I am there for me. What can I personally get from the sermon? Is there nothing there for me? If on a weekly basis you find yourself thinking one of the top three processes but never finding soul food to munch on, there is a good chance you are way too arrogant or you are in a church that just might not be for you.

Even though I have addressed my issue of this I still struggle at times finding myself thinking "oh she should totally be here for this." And my thoughts  will wander for a bit going over how this person would think or react or lack of reaction. But I now at least get a good swift prompting to pull my head back out of nastyjudgementville and really focus on knowing that God has something specific He wants me to hear. He has told me plenty of times when he pulls my thoughts back to where he wants them that; "only God can change and influence the heart of a person. Your job, my daughter, is to take action on what I am telling your heart. No more, no less."

Just this last week I was listening to the sermon I missed and thinking, "wow, God I get this but, I know I am a pretty decent spiritual friend." (I normally don't think I am good at anything so this is a good sign I am starting to see something good.) so I kept listening for a while and during it was praying, "ok, God, you have me hearing this for a reason and it isn't to puff up my ego. What exactly do you want me to learn from this?"
No kidding as soon as I prayed that I got two answers almost right in a row. They weren't oooober deep for most people but, they were specific, just for me.

We can keep going to church and listening to sermons to give other people the pastors spiritual insites. (This is sometimes Ok to do when at a proper time aka when someone asks for help or an opinion) Or, you can choose to go to service with an open heart, ready to be taught something by God that will give you a deeper understanding of who God is, who you are because of Jesus, or a change he'd like you to go through to make you even more like Him.

"Jesus, what do you want to teach me today?"

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Smiling doesn't make you a Christian

I'm going to be more than blunt in this blog and probably ramble a tad, so if you are tender hearted, or don't like having bold truth spoke at you then now would be a great time for you to stop reading.

... ok so for those of you still reading if I step on your toes, well then I hope they heal!


I am going to do a bit of venting/ being honest with you today about what annoys me most about Christians 'out reach.'

Our level of out reach is rather pathetic. We hide behind saying we were showing our Christ-likeness today...
...at the grocery store by letting someone go first in line
...we smiled at random strangers we pass
...pay it forward in the Starbucks line
...we teach a class at our church on how to better serve others
... we tell another mom with a kid throwing a fit in public that we've all been there it's ok
... hold a door open for a stranger
...
...
and as you can tell the patheticness goes on and on.

Am I knocking this whole idea of 'being Christ-like?"

Well, maybe just a tad!!

You see this isn't being Christ-like. It's not going above and beyond the call of what another human who doesn't know the love of God could and many times would do.

Though it is nice to smile, or lend a hand, let someone else go first, or even pay it forward these are things we learn in kindergarten on how to treat each other. My son goes to a public school, has a teacher who does not teach the Bible to the children and yet she knows enough to teach the children to be kind to each other.

We learn from infancy what it means to be giving and nice and kind and help others.

So, you may ask "What are you suggesting we do?"

I am suggesting you put yourself out there and actually be different than the rest of the world. The world knows how to be kind. I have strangers pass me all the time who smile, and frankly I doubt many of them know God's love.  So I also doubt me smiling back at them (though yes I do) is going to 'save them' or 'help them see more of Jesus.'

Putting yourself out there does mean actually looking different to the world, and for those of you who think you aren't suppose to be known as crazy or different! THINK AGAIN!!!

Jesus didn't ask you to blend into the world He told you to be a light to the world. He asked you to do more than just say  quick pleasantries to make people smile. He asked you to do more than pay it forward to the stranger in the Starbucks line. He asked you to shine your light before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in Heaven!!! (Matthew 5:16)

That means get out there, be daring to be WAY different! Be daring to start an actual conversation with a random stranger today! (oh no what if they don't like you?) The worst that can happen is they walk away. The most that can happen is that you will have an actual life long impact on them.

They aren't going to remember your face just because you smiled at them today in passing. They are going to remember the stranger that took actual time out of their day to interact and get to know them or help them.

Is this outside of your comfort zone? Are you worried the world is going to think you are crazy?

Truth is the world is dying to see the light you have that you have been hiding behind a bushel saying you are a 'Christian" at church or even in public but doing nothing to prove it. Let your actions prove more than Christ is just living in you as your scapegoat to slide your way into heaven but that He is ruling in you!

If you are Christian, you are to be loving and the only thing you are to fear is God, not man

~Hebrews 13:6~
"So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me"

As Christians we are not to merely hide behind the phrase Christian as a way to religiously categorize ourselves. We are to be out there, changing the world by infecting the others with Jesus light. We aren't suppose to be sitting on our couches comfortably every night thinking it's someone else's job to go into all the world and preach the Gospel. 

You are in the world but you are more than just another someone, you are part of the army of Christ! If you are sitting on your couch hoping everyone else is actively serving and all you offer is an occasional smile to a random stranger then you are a lazy soldier!

You are never going to rise and be a warrior if you are sitting on your back side. Warriors are made by fighting the battles, by training, and by obeying the commands of their leader.

Warriors are the ones willing to be different, they don't just fight they go above and beyond that of an ordiary soldier. Be willing to take a risk, be a warrior, not just an untrained soldier who shrinks back from battle but one that is armed and dangerous to the enemy at all times!

~I Corinthians 16:13&14~

Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous.Be strong.  And do everything with love.

Sunday, January 11, 2015

Feeling Overwhelmed? Ask for help!


And when He had called His twelve disciples to Him, He gave them power over unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to heal all kinds of sickness and all kinds of disease. ~Matthew 10:1

As women we strive for perfection.
We desire to be considered one of a kind, unique, irreplaceable.
We want to do it all!
We want to rule it all!
We act as though we have to prove our worth to the world (especially now that we work with men on equal playing fields).

Though I am sure women have struggled with this ideal way of living since day one, I believe the longer the human race exists the worse this idea becomes.

We wear ourselves thin. Wanting to have control of everything. Yet, somehow we feel like we are in control of nothing. We don't give ourselves breathing room or grace or allow ourselves the need to be helped. We require room to be human, but never allow ourselves to actually be human.

If we take a sick day most of us think the world we live in would collapse without us in it.

But here in Matthew 10:1 we read that even Jesus sought help from others who followed his leading. He didn't try to do everything on his own. He allowed those who were closest to him, who followed his leadership whole heatedly, to have the same power He did to do the same work He was doing.

Jesus was God's Son, He could have done anything, Right? I'm sure if God wanted Him to He would have found a way to make Him touch everyone at once. Truth is; Jesus was limited inside a human body only able to do so much and be in so many places at one time,and Jesus knew that.

So, in order to reach more people He taught those who followed His leadership how to do the same. He empowered those around him to be able to fearlessly do what He did. He lead by example, showed them how to do it and then entrusted them to go do it.

If you are overwhelmed, feel like you can't ever catch a break, or think the world is going to fall apart without you in it for even one day then try finding someone or even a few someones who understand your ideas and goals and delegate some of your tasks to them.

Don't take the world on alone!

God gave us people of like mind and heart to achieve the same goals we are set out to do. Enjoy the freedom of knowing you have people beside you who want the same goals as you. That is your team.

 It doesn't mean people think less of you because you need help. Infarct, most will think more of you for being honest enough to know you need help. These people still look up to you, you just motivate them to become active in reaching a goal.

Stop thinking you are alone and have to do it all yourself.
Good leaders know how and who to delegate the tasks to get the job done to attain like-minded goals.

Find your team and relax a little more, enjoy the company of teammates, and enjoy celebrating success with more than just yourself!

Jesus was the most successful leader ever! If He sought out help then we definitely need it!


Monday, December 29, 2014

365 days of thankfulness-changing my life perspective

Every year we take a whole month out of the year to be thankful. Not gonna knock it, but I have realized how foolish we are to really only focus for such a short time on our blessings. To top it off the month following counting our blessings we spend the whole month buying gifts for our family and friends (ourselves), and if we are honest we typically over do it.

 I knew I needed to find a way to change this problem. And, the place to start the fix was to start with the person I can change; me.
And as I prayed and thought long and hard over this for months on how I could change me I came to a solid conclusion of what I needed to do. My conclusion is:
365 Days of Thankfulness.

This means every day for a full year I have to name one thing I am thankful for that I have not named previously in the year. So if day one I say, "my husband" I can not say my husband again all year.

The world is constantly surrounded with negative and many times it is hard for us to remember there are so many things to be thankful for to remind us how blessed we are to be alive. to make the world a more joyful place I need to focus on the blessings and not on the negative circumstances around me.  Happiness  is a moment of satisfaction that is fleeting.

Joy is a choice, a state of the heart that can last forever!
I choose joy! No matter my circumstances I choose joy!

2015 the year I choose to change my own perspective! With changing my own perspective I pray that my attitude of gratefulness will encourage and challenge others to do the same.

HERE IS TO 2015- The most joy-filled year yet!

January 1: Thankful for new beginnings. Isaiah 43:18&19a "forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See I am doing a new thing!"
January 2: I'm thankful God's love and not just His love but that he has blessed me with love from others, my husband, kids, parents, siblings and friends. Still is a mystery to me how much God loves me and yet He blesses me with extra love by adding all the other people in my life to help me experience it daily.
January 3: My husbands patience, not just with me and my kids but with all people.
January 4: Snow!! I don't care if I see snow over 6 months out of the year. Each fresh snowfall is always just as beautiful as the one before it and the one before that. Such a great reminder for me. (Isaiah 1:18)
January 5: Forgiveness, it is both freeing to give and receive
January 6: Fires: They are warm, bright, unique and a great reminder of one of my favorite verses I Peter 1:7
January 7: Saving Grace https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geqpE4nYFCU this song was what made me come back to believing there was a purpose for Jesus death and even if the people around me didn't live this way it was the way I wanted to live. You could say I blame this song for coming back to living my life of faith... it became more about love than anything else.
January 8: Toddler giggles; that sounds just makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
January 9: A husband who has cooking/cleaning abilities and is not afraid of using them :) (makes for an easier rest time when I need a sick day)
January 10: The idea of marriage. The bond between a husband and a wife was created by God to bring glory to God. Marriage is not just a good thing it's a GREAT thing!
January 11: The Bible. No matter my mood It has been a source of comfort and of correction when ever I am in need. The more I read it the more I understand God and my need for a savior. The more I understand that the more I understand how to be loving to the world.
January 12: Pathways (our home church) Where freedom and truth are spoken into our lives on a weekly basis.
January 13: Music
January 14: Skype; it's so much easier to keep in touch with my sister and family on the other side of the world.
January 15: The couples life group we are apart of each week
January 16: The promise of Heaven; being united with Jesus and our friends and family.
January 17: Our kids awesome God parents! I love spending time with them and all the time they spend with our kids.
January 18: Doctors who care for my kids when they are sick
January 19: nights filled with laughter of my kids. Tickle games are the best ever!
January 20: My husbands amazing job. They are family oriented and all about enjoying what you do.
January 21: Our home. The story of getting it, and the amazing reminder daily of how God not only provides but goes all out to provide for His children!
January 22: The two vehicles that we have. We've been blessed with both of them to work well and to not have issues!
January 23: Pictures. Especially ones of my children and husband, they capture moments so I can look back on bad days and remember the joy :)
January 24: Silence
January 25: Christian sister's in Christ who pray for me and with me
January 26: Emotional and Spiritual healing
January 27: Restful mornings
January 28: Lego's... countless hours of family fun with no arguing! What's not to love?
January 29: Essential oils... and all the people who convinced me to try them out! Seriously in love
January 30: the gift of crochet. It keeps me busy and gives me a goal to start and finish giving me the feeling of being accomplished and proud I actually created something for someone
January 31: Our House! a constant reminder the details of how much God takes care of more than our needs he sometimes will satisfy our wants
February 1: My parents.we may not always see eye to eye on everything but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be where I am today.
February 2: Coffee!! Caffeine in general makes me happy :)
February 3: My sister. She has been a constant companion and friend in my life, one who I have always and will continue to always look up too.
February 4: My oldest brother Dan. He's one of those guys that picks on me ruthlessly but I wouldn't have it any other way. I know at any point if I need a defender he would be the first to do that for me.
February 5: My brother David. He's always been there for me to talk to and look out for me. Even though I am older and married and have my own kids he still maintains that older brother protective nature.
February 6: My little brother Stephen. He is also one of those guys that doesn't shove his brilliance down my throat. He just loves me for me and encourages me a lot to just be who God made me to be.
February 7: Educational books
February 8: My Piano
February 9: My voice-being able to raise my voice in song always relieves stress and tension even if only for the moment
February 10: My one and only beautiful daughter! She is and always will be our little Rae of Sunshine. Smiles and giggles and full of such mystery and girlie attitudes. I wouldn't trade her for anything. She is perfect just the way she is. our family was blessed beyond measure the day she was added to our family.
February 11: The women's ministry team at our church. I may be the youngest on the team but I am also the luckiest to be working with those who pass on such grace and wisdom.
February 12: My oldest sons school teacher.
February 13: My mother and father in law. They raised the best guy EVER!
February 14: Valentines day, the day set aside to celebrate the best gift any of us have ever recieved, love! Single or married we have all experienced it with at least a few humans, our parents, siblings, teachers, kids, or even our amazing friends. Everyone has someone they love and have been loved by.
February 15: Double Dates. They are simply amazing if you pick the right couple to hang out with.
February 16: The ability to exercise
February 17: Thomas the Train, those toys keep my kids playing and smiling for hours.
February 18: crochet, it's the only 'crafty' thing I can say I really enjoy doing
February 19: Vacation
February 20: my husbands co-workers who make a 4 day weekend away even more enjoyable
February 21: Hotel Swimming pools on a freezing cold winter day
February 22: DVD Players built into our van. They make road trips much more tolerable than they were for my parents back in the day
February 23: Grandpa Dave and Grandma Deb. They are wonderful grandparents to our children and great friends to my husband and myself. (They are the 'adopted' grandparents)
February 24: Tax returns! Who doesn't like a little extra cash?
February 25: Pod Casts from our church so if I miss a service I can still hear it and stay on target with the rest of the people I gather with on Sundays
February 26: cell phones, as much as I dislike them I also know they are the best way to keep in touch with family and make me feel safe when traveling distances
February 27: game days. It's so cold this winter I have been able to spend lots and lots of quality time with my little's playing games they enjoy.
February 28: lazy Saturday mornings with the family
March 1: The atmosphere that comes with the prospects of spring. Peoples moods seem just a bit lighter and the smiles stay just a bit longer
March 2: Tea Kettles. The sound, though it can be loud, is also a very welcoming sound of home and something warm. It always makes me smile.
March 3: My husbands love and knowledge of computers. Without him, I would be so lost in the world of technology.
March 4: Time, I have been blessed with an exuberant amount of time to help others and listen to them
March 5: A happy marriage. Not that we don't ever have issues once in a while but we are actually happily married. We enjoy each others company and miss each other when we don't get to have our QT.
March 6: Surprises! And my husband is the best at planning them out for me.
March 7: My older brother got to visit with a few of his girls
March 8: being an Aunt. Seriously I love hanging out with my nieces
March 9: Painting therapy.  I love painting our home.
March 10: The excitement in the air that spring is on it's way!
March 11: Field Trips I am so thankful for field trips cuz they make Alex super excited
March 12: My friend Ashley! She is amazing and funny and sweet and a great listener. She's a one of a kind.
March 13: I am thankful my husband gets to work from home a lot. He is around all the time and helps keep my sanity with the kids when I am having a bad day.
March 14: Berries. I love berries!
March 15; Daily devotions. Starting the day off right is always a way to keep my day filled with a different Spirit!
March 16: The gift of prayer. Being able to talk to God any time, any where about anything is truly a blessing. Mad, happy, emotional or feeling free I can pray.
March 17: God's Grace. He provides so many things for me even when I don't deserve it.
March 18: Quite, being forced to be quiet and still is a good thing in my world when I normally don't get much of it.
March 19: Forgiveness.
March 20: Clean water. Often I take this one for granted but it's true, clean water isn't something a lot of the world actually has access too.
March 21: The ability to work with my hands
March 22: The prospect of Heaven where I will be able to see many friends for eternity
March 23: My oldest son's school teacher
March 24: Swing sets... because the kids get along for hours
March 25: I'm thankful for moments to watch the snow melt
March 26: I am thankful for my son's spring break. A week of him being home with us will be nice!
March 27: I am thankful for my specific place of prayer. I pray anywhere and everywhere but the one place I always go in the mornings is just a bit extra special
March 28: I am thankful for the fact my kids get along most days. I know a lot of parents complain about their kids not getting along a lot and mine have their moments of that but they aren't often
March 29: I am thankful for our lead pastor at our church. He preaches what God tells him to without an agenda to his own plans
March 30: I am thankful for Monday Mornings. I know most people don't like them but I typically love them!
March 31: The power of prayer!
April 1; I am very thankful for April first, though there are a ton of jokes, it's also my little brothers birthday!! April Fools would be so boring without him :)
April 2: Shopping at Kohl's when they actually have real sales with a 30% off coupon.
April 3: Good Friday, because if Jesus wasn't willing to be the sacrifice our lives would be for nothing
April 4: Per, and Audrey, the two children who I met ten years ago to be their nanny. They taught me so much about life and love.
April 5: Resurrection Sunday! So thankful that God loved us so much He gave His one and only Son to die for the sins of the world, so He could raise up back to life and conquer sin and death!
April 6: I'm thankful my 2 littlest ones still take naps in the afternoon. It gives me time to talk with God and work on what He has called me to do.
April 7: I'm thankful today for the construction truck in front of our house. They  may be making a lot of noise but the joy that my kids have been expressing all day from watching it is worth it.
April 8: Social Media. It is an easy way for me to see what happens in the lives of my siblings and their kids as they live so far away. And it's a great way to stay in touch with old friends who also live so far away.
April 9: The first roll of thunder in spring! Getting woken up to it was an added bonus! I love the sounds of spring in the air... literally
April 10: Friday night family movie night! It's always something we all look forward to at the end of every week.
April 11 Saturday mornings when my kids let me sleep in!
April 12: Serving at our church. I love the opportunity to help people and meet new faces each week.
April 13: Coffee beans covered in chocolate... need I really explain why I am thankful for this?? :D
April 14: Being blessed with the ministry God has asked me to do and opened all the doors to get things moving.
April 15: Our mini van. I never thought I would be thankful for a mini van but seriously it's a huge blessing to own one and to be able to use it to serve my kids and other people
April 16: The grass is turning green!! It's becoming soft to walk in again!
April 17: The ability to landscape my own yard. I love working iwth  my husband and kids to make our yard our own. It's fun to work together and dream up new ideas.
April 18: Double date nights with our kids godparents! Such an amazing couple and I get to hang with my main man
April 19: Sunday naps... because it means an afternoon of getting to chat with  my husband and just relax.
April 20: April showers.... there better be may flowers from this day :D
April 21: Finding the perfect stylists for my kids hair cuts. As trivial as this may seem it really is a blessing that I have found someone that each of my kids will sit for and don't cry at all. Easier said than done with three little's who all have different personality types.
April 22
April 23
April 24
April 25
April 26
April 27
April 28
April 29
April 30
May 1
May 2
May 3
May 4
May 5
May 6
May 7
May 8
May 9
May 10
May 11
May 12
May 13
May 14
May 15
May 16
May 17
May 18
May 19
May 20
May 21
May 22
May 23
May 24
May 25
May 26
May 27
May 28
May 29
May 30
May 31
June 1
June 2
June 3
June 4
June 5
June 6
June 7
June 8
June 9
June 10
June 11
June 12
June 13
June 14
June 15
June 16
June 17
June 18
June 19
June 20
June 21
June 22
June 23
June 24
June 25
June 26
June 27
June 28
June 29
June 30
July 1
July 2
July 3
July 4
July 5
July 6
July 7
July 8
July 9
July 10
July 11
July 12
July 13
July 14
July 15
July 16
July 17
July 18
July 19
July 20
July 21
July 22
July 23
July 24
July 25
July 26
July 27
July 28
July 29
July 30
July 31
August 1
August 2
August 3
August 4
August 4
August 5
August 6
August 7
August 8
August 9
August 10
August 11
August 12
August 13
August 14
August 15
August 16
August 17
August 18
August 19
August 20
August 21
August 22
August 23
August 24
August 25
August 26
August 27
August 28
August 29
August 30
August 31
September 1
September 2
September 3
September 4
September 5
September 6
September 7
September 8
September 9
September 10
September 11
September 12
September 13
September 14
September 15
September 16
September 17
September 18
September 19
September 20
September 21
September 22
September 23
September 24
September 25
September 26
September 27
September 28
September 29
September 30
October 1
October 2
October 3
October 4
October 5
October 6
October 7
October 8
October 9
October 10
October 11
October 12
October 13
October 14
October 15
October 16
October 17
October 18
October 19
October 20
October 21
October 22
October 23
October 24
October 25
October 26
October 27
October 28
October 29
October 30
October 31
November 1
November 2
November 3
November 4
November 5
November 6
November 7
November 8
November 9
November 10
November 11
November 12
November 13
November 14
November 15
November 16
November 17
November 18
November 19
November 20
November 21
November 22
November 23
November 24
November 25
November 26
November 27
November 28
November 29
November 30
December 1
December 2
December 3
December 4
December 5
December 6
December 7
December 8
December 9
December 10
December 11
December 12
December 13
December 14
December 15
December 16
December 17
December 18
December 19
December 20
December 21
December 22
December 23
December 24
December 25
December 26
December 27
December 28
December 29
December 30
December 31


Thursday, December 4, 2014

The greatest of all gifts to give

Christianity today has allowed us to surrounded ourselves with the right actions, the right things to say, and the right way to make ourselves feel worth while. We focus a lot on how we can serve God. We focus on how forgiving and merciful and full of grace he is (or at least that is the lingo we use).
These things are great to focus on, but if Christ is truly reigning in our every day life then why do we focus so hard trying to convince ourselves and others of how true these traits are?
What I am saying is many of us talk a good talk, but our words are empty to our own ears, and our actions will always speak louder than our words.
So, to make sure we stay on the straight and narrow we often take classes to learn, to keep growing, and often as soon as a class ends we are full of knowledge of how things should be but do not actually put them into action on a daily basis.
Now I know I have benefited from classes and learning experiences where I strive to educate myself on what God desires of me as a person under his authority and leadership. I take classes to be encouraged and hear more of how to apply Gods word to my every day life. I've taken test to find out what my best gifts are, sought where his purpose is for me and all the details of how I could best be used with my personality to serve God. 
I have learned and taken some serious time to study with and even under a few others who have some of the same gifts and interests in learning and developing their gifts as I do.
But taking tests, and learning haven't always gotten me anywhere. I have studied and learned until I was blue in the face, to the point maybe of over doing it.
I got so caught in the mundane studying of these different gifts I have and how to best use them that I have forgotten to use the most important gift of all.
This gift is not listed in a spiritual gifts test or even in a personality test. .  It is the most important gift any of us have and yet we never list it as a gift or personally trait we have. 
When we have Jesus it is the gift we often times forget to even portray effectively. We use the term a lot and I mean a lot!! But yet, so many of us never see it as a gift, let alone our main gift. 
We have people who excel in having the gift of faith, or healing, or speaking in tongues, or prophecy, or knowledge, or wisdom, or teaching, or preaching, or hospitality, encouragement, peacemaker, or the gift of giving or maybe some claim to excel in all of these areas as  they have devoted themselves to be well trained and well versed.
 But I tell you the scripture is very clear; though you may have all these gifts if you do not have and practice and hold tight to the one that is most important you are only a cymbal, a resounding gong, you are nothing!
I Corinthians 13:1-3
"If I speak in tongues of men and if angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I posses to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing."
I have been going to church a long long time. I have been taught from birth about Christianity. But I have also traveled a road where I was running away from God. And I can tell you this, no one who is great in any of the above areas mention prophecy, gifts, faith, speaking in tongues, none of those things would have ever been what made me choose to come back to have a relationship with God. The thing that brought me back wasn't Gods amazing power to give me those gifts.
What brought me back was His love! His never ending ability to love me, chase me and call me his! I was His, no matter how far I ran or how many times I pushed him away. He loved me no matter what my faults. His love, and only His ability to love me was what brought me back to my need for him to be my Savior and Lord.
All the gifts in the world won't bring people to an understanding of the love they are looking for. The only way for people to understand the type of love they are missing out on is for us to be that love to them and to everyone.
People aren't going to walk into your church knowing that is where they are to find what they are missing. That is why we are the salt of the earth, the light on a hill. (Matthew 5:13&14) We are to shine the love everywhere to help people know and see the light of the love they need and want  is something we have. But don't leave them in the dark wishing they could have your light, show them the flame can be theirs too! Give them the gift of the Love of Jesus that you posses.
We may have gifts but we need to share the most important gift God gave each of us the moment we asked Jesus to be king of our lives and that is HIS love. 
It's not something that can be forced or faked, it's not something we can talk about and claim to have and understand. It is the ability to let it spill over, to let it just flow off of you. 
When filled with God's love and using that gift as your first gift to give it will only enhance your ability, understanding and desire to use the other gifts you have been given appropriately. 
When you put the gift of love first you will never prophecy in bluntness, you will use encouraging words that will be genuine not forced or just said out of habit. Your faith will be made stronger, your ability to speak any language will be made more beautiful and any other gifts will just be made better, more sincere, less showy. 
You won't be doing those things just because they are the right things to do anymore and you get another gold star because you did another great task for Jesus (even when you didn't want too). You will be doing those things because you will want too. They will gladly flow out of your heart and soul. The fruit of the Spirit which all starts with LOVE will just happen because you are filled with the greatest love that everyone on earth is looking for. 
So as we set up our trees, greet people with those smiles and put on the "Christmas spirit" instead of being ritualistic in our actions lets just ask God to really have us focus on the real gift he gave all of us! The gift of love. Tis the season to give to all but this year, let's learn the gift and give the gift and never give up sharing the most important gift we all forget we have. Let the gift of giving that love still exist come the 1st of the year and tax season and St Patrick's day and Easter and the 4th of July and may we make 2015 a year where love was the theme of our year. The year where Christians were known for their gift of sharing Love to all the world. 
Give the gift of love.
Seek to practice it and grow it more than you would wisdom, discernment, knowledge, faith, speaking in tongues, healing or any other gift we desire to have. 
Put on love, and keep it on! May you never take it off but may it always flow from you to all!


Monday, November 17, 2014

If the Church acted like God designed

The other day my husband was reading to me from a book written by Max Lucado. Now I typically find all this author/teacher has to say very intriguing, thought provoking, and even wise. This time it was a bit different.
"there will never be a church without gossip or competition." (Max Lucado When God Whispers your name)
Now this may be a true statement, but what has me irritated is the statement itself. It is so matter of fact that it's like we as a Christian society have condoned such actions. I am even to the point of saddened that statements are made like this all the time within the body of believers. Hearing words like, "well we are only human," or "what do you expect?we aren't all perfect," or one of my personal favorites, "all women gossip in some shape way or form, it's just part of who we are." All of these types of statements have become the norm to hear in our generation about the church. 
Yet I can't help but know that making statements like that sadden's God's heart. He has given us His Spirit of righteousness through His Son! We are to act differently than the rest of the world because our purpose in life has changed with the acceptance of the Holy Spirit. 
Ephesians 4:21-24
 Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.
So why am I so perplexed  if I find this statement from Max Lucado to be true? Because this statement is so true and many others similar to it we risk running off fellow believers because we are not doing what we were designed to do as united followers of Christ.
We are told in scripture to confront people (siblings in Christ) who are in sin. (Matt 18:15; Luke 17:3; Gal 6:1 James 5:19&20) 
If the people within the church did exactly what the Bible said to do instead of sweeping things under the rug and trying to ignore the dysfunction we wouldn't have a church were gossip is excepted as the norm, or hidden agendas, or politics. 
No, if we did what the Bible said as in confronting a brother or sister living in a sinful way and nip it all in the butt we actually would have the church of Christ. A church where grace and love abound and everyone works with the same common goal! We wouldn't be confused when someone tries to correct us because we would know and trust they are doing it to help the body of Christ become stronger. 
But instead what we have is people who just excuse another's actions, or a group of people's actions, as though they are now just the norm that is excepted. Instead of confronting people, because let's face it that would mean we are judging someone(sarcasm here ppl), we just either pretend we are better than them because we know that they know better and are choosing to do wrong, or we join them in their sin issues coming up with whatever excuse we seem confident will fit our personal desire to join them. Or you have the worst one yet, seeing it but yet refusing to confront them because you will be seen as mean or judgmental.
And one of the most saddening parts to all of this is the leaders within the churches don't even stand up to stop it because they fear the people's reactions more than fearing God.
Wrong! So so wrong! 
The church of Christ is suppose to be a body of believers joined in one spirit with one common goal, to glorify Jesus Christ! But how can we say we are doing that if we are allowing other brothers and sisters to continue to live in sin? 
If we are one body but one part of the body is injured (deceived, infected) is it not better to help the hurt part of the body rather than to pretend it's not there. If we cover it up and ignore it we risk the infection spreading throughout the rest of the body and eventually killing the heart.
The Bible talks about the order to do things when you see a brother or sister in the wrong and it starts with confronting them alone. If they don't change then you find one or two others to go with you and if that doesn't work you bring the issue to the church elders or pastor who in turn figures out the best rout to deal with what would seem to be a very deep infection if it has become serious enough that the person needs to be brought before the church.  (Matthew 18:15-17)
The truth is we don't hold to this scripture at all! It's like we have picked and chosen which parts we want to follow and which parts we want to just ignore or find ways around them.
Here in lies the problem then, the root cause as to why the Christian church as a whole can not seem to shake free; we are allowing ourselves to stay infected and choosing to try and pretend the problems aren't there. 
So once we are willing to take action the next step can actually be the hardest one to get right. How are we suppose to confront the issue of another's sin but not come across as judging them?
 Ephesians 4:15
 "Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of the body, the church."
How to speak to your fellow Christian in love:
Step one: we have to examine our own hearts. Make sure you don't have a log in your own eye before trying to remove the speck. (Matt 7:3-5)
Step two:  make sure the sin you see in the person is actually a biblical sin, not an opinion you have formed about how something should be. If you can't back up your confrontation with scripture there is a good chance you may be jumping the gun on an opinion rather than truth.
If they have sinned against you personally make sure you have already forgiven the sin (Col. 3:13)
Step three: pray for words of wisdom to help the person. caring for part of the body is ok, scrapping the wound and leaving it there to bleed alone is not exactly helpful and can be more damaging to the body. 
No, first you confront in care, do so out of love for the sibling in Christ. Then make sure they know you are there to help them, aka offer them hope and a way to fix the problem. And then once you have offered to be the helping hand make sure to keep going there to be a friend, a true help to the body part while it heals.  Otherwise you risk letting others in the body who  may come angrily behind you and tear the wound back open and your sibling may loose site of the help that was offered. 
Typically people don't seek help even when it is offered.We often slink into the "I can do it myself" mode,or "I really don't want to bother them" mode. 
Taking care of the body is part of the Christians job! If someone in your church saw you were following  wrong doctrine or not living in a way which is Godly wouldn't you want someone to come to you and offer to help you? Most of us don't even realize we have a problem let alone know how to fix it once it is brought to our attention. But wouldn't you want someone to come along side you with a gentle touch to help you identify the problem and be there as your support system? I know I would. 
When we are the body of Christ and treat each other as equally important members to the body, it is then easier for all of us to function the way we should because we will spend less time trying to mend wounds and more time praising God together and sewing and reaping the Lords harvest!
Ephesians 4:16

 He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.


Monday, October 13, 2014

is Jesus enough?

The other day I was listening to a friend share part of her journey in life. She posed the question to herself at one point; "is Jesus really enough?" she was talking about being alone just her husband and kids after moving here a few years back and knowing no one. She started asking the question is Jesus enough to fulfill her?
I have thought long and hard over that question ever since that conversation. Of course my immediate response was "well of course." But then the more I thought about it the more I wasn't entirely sure I was being honest.
I took much satisfaction on having many things and being many things to many people.
So I started making a list of all the things I had and all the things I was apart of that made me feel complete, whole, and worth while.
After I made the list I started going through and crossing off things asking; would Jesus still be enough to fill me up without..." The car, the house, the things, even most of the people I was able to say def yes!
But then the list hit my heart, the things I hold close and care for; the ministries I am involved in, the God given gifts I've been blessed with, my kids; my husband. If I lost all those things would Jesus still be enough!? Would I still trust God and want a close relationship with him? Or do I find more satisfaction in being a wife, mother, teacher?

Though I want to say for sure "yes" I'm not sure that would be being 100% honest. Though I can agree I would still love Jesus and know he is my savior it doesn't mean I wouldn't get a little more than frustrated if I lost those things that bring "meaning" to my life.

Would Jesus really be my all in all? Is he really my everything? Or are those just pretty words I say?


I have come to one conclusion in all of this;
I may never be able to say a true yes to that but I can tell you without a doubt that God proved he loved me enough to give up everything for a relationship with me and to be honest I think that is what really matters. In return I can only hope I would be willing to do the same for Him if that was what He asked of me.