Ladies, especially those of you who are married let me just
say this to ya straight; There is nothing wrong with being attractive and dare I say it? LOOKIN" SEXY!!! I know who would have thought? I know several of you lovely God
fearing women might just have gasped a little in horror at the words.
But let’s face it, we complain if we think our husband is
even thinking another lady is more attractive than us let alone if they really were
even thinking thoughts beyond that at all. But why do we get upset if they see
someone they are attracted too? After all they are human and it doesn’t make
them any less of a Godly man if they see a woman whom they are attracted to
physically. The only time it is sin is if they act upon that thought. But the majority
of us are a jealous breed. We like to be the center of his thought processes
especially when it comes to the physical realm of life.
But let’s shoot straight here with each other. Who are we
kidding? I mean we aren’t all born to be models right? I agree we are all born
with different traits that aren’t necessarily considered beautiful by all
humans, but there is nothing wrong at all with attempting our best to be
attractive as possible for our spouse.
I have had many conversations with women regarding how I
would like to look now that I am done having children. Yes, when I talk about how I would like to
look I say the words, “I would like to look and feel sexy.” I get horrific
stares, comments about how that isn’t possible anymore for us to be that way
since I have had kids and other, what I would call, stupid comments. Why is it
so terrible to want to be attractive as possible for my spouse? There is
absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel as sexy as possible. God
does not condemn us for wanting to be attractive for our mate. It is wrong to
try and be that way to impress other people or try and attract other men. God is not against the idea of you dressing
in a sexy (not slutty) way for your spouse.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it!!!
God tells us to honor, love and respect our husband and
there is no better way to try and do that then to look as good as you possibly
can for him. I don’t mean as far as having an eating disorder to be thin or
pounding on the make up to look like a clown. But, I am saying that if you need
to work out a bit because he seems attracted to a toner look, then try it! If you want to put on a little make up to make
the features he loves stand out then by all means go for it! There is nothing
wrong with going all out for your spouse to look amazing for him. There is
however something wrong with not trying to find ways to keep his eyes on you
and you only.
My husband and I talk openly about our attractions to each
other or even about the human body in general. My husband has called me sexy
and hot and beautiful in all forms of my figure, before kids, during pregnancy
and after pregnancies. It’s not that while I was pregnant I was a super
attractive pregnant person but on occasion I would try and doll up a bit just
for him to let him know I wanted his eyes on me still. I do not think that I am the sexiest being on
the planet or even God’s gift to all men. I do know I am God’s gift to one man,
my spouse! And he is awesome and deserves the best I can possibly give him,
emotionally, spiritually and yes, even physically.
When women go around not dolling themselves up for their
spouse or putting in an effort to really try and be attractive for them who is
to blame your spouse when he starts seeing things he is attracted too and
holding their eyes on it a bit longer? When you don’t care to doll up for him
ever or at least try to be attractive to him in some sort of fashion what is he
suppose to think? Well let’s face it he is going to start thinking that you
really don’t care if he looks at others because you definitely aren’t trying to
keep him looking at you. Just like when you were dating you would doll up for
him you should still do the same on occasion and let him know that you want his
eyes on you. It is ok to be sexy, look sexy, dress in a matter that would catch
your husband attention and make him desire you. (if you are in public try to abstain
from looking slutty you don’t need to be trying to catch every persons
attention especially not the 16 year old boys)
I know in the Christian world we never talk about this stuff
because it’s too touchy feely, but I feel like it’s a discussion that needs to
be had. As a Christian woman our job as a spouse is to help keep our husbands
on track. Our husbands already face a rough enough challenge every day they
open their eyes in this world as the pornography is just flooding everything
these days, from simple adds on tv, to covers of magazines that you see in the checkout
lines in the grocery store. If our job as a wife is to stand beside him and
help to keep him on the right track with his faith then part of our job is to
be as sexy and attractive to him as we possibly can. The only way you are ever
going to be able to keep his eyes from adverting to something is by trying your
best to fulfill being his every need that doesn’t just mean spiritually, it
also means physically.
I don’t need to look sexy to everyone just sexy to him!
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